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Raising SNABs

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Heard of Sensitive New Age Guys?

Well, before they were SNAGs, they must have been SNABs.
Sensitive New Age Boys.

Of course, I don’t believe in New Age anything. But it’s the closest term I could think of that would help you more quickly understand what I’m about to share.

So, perhaps, I would like to rephrase and say I’m raising:
Sensitive
Nurturing
Activist
Boys.

Boys who will grow into strong, compassionate men who see the needs of the community, and will rise up to be part of the solution to those needs.

You see, I would like to ask you to indulge me in a time of ‘proud mama’ boasting sharing.

Proud Mama Sharing Starts Now…

I’m just reflecting on how blessed and honoured I am to be entrusted with the task of being mum to two boys with such compassionate and generous hearts. The eldest really has a heart for the less fortunate as he always notices the old, weak and poor whenever we go out.

My Son Has  A Heart of Gold

Once, not too long ago, after he saw an elderly person in the midst of a crowded street peddling tissue, he said, “Mummy, why don’t we go home now and take all my money from my piggy bank and just give it to her?”

Now, THAT piggy bank of his has been heavy and full for more than a year and he has NOT allowed me to touch it. NOT allowed me to take it to the bank IN SPITE of my repeated explanations of how he could earn from rolling interest ( though pathetic, still money, ya?).

But for that old lady, he would gladly give her every single cent. And you can be sure I was not the one to suggest it to him because, erm, that old lady looks frail and pitiful for sure, but why does she have a mobile phone?

Being the jaded adult, I stopped him from doing so.

His Questions & Concern For The Less Fortunate Doesn’t Seem To Stop

But months passed, we see the same elderly and infirm peddling around the interchange. His questions are still the same – Why are they poor, Mummy? Why do they have to do this? Why can’t we give them money?

So How, My Dear Boy, Can We Help The Poor?

In order to help Big Boy fulfil his desire of giving money to the less privileged, I suggested that we use our hands to make things to sell to raise money (cos cannot just let him take money he hasn’t earned to give away lest he develops the wrong understanding of money).

This is how our Kids For Charity (KFC) started.

You’re Not Too Young or Useless To Make A Difference

Since I decided to homeschool. I’ve decided that I would try to make as MUCH of our daily activities and experiences count.
I don’t really like to do things just because, or for the sake of doing.

And since, we’re starting a 6-week long literature study around the famous Madeline classics.
And since, I’ve been wanting to teach him more handicrafts like, ahem, sewing, knitting.
So why not french knitting and finger knitting?

The very same day he learnt french knitting, he made 2 whole Christmas wreaths by himself.


It takes him about an hour to complete wreath, and with a whole lot of cheering and reminding from me to keep on task.
It’s not easy for me to be patiently cheering him one when I can really knit much faster than he can. Though, surprisingly, his handiwork is finer than mine.

Precious Life Lessons Being Learnt & Practised

On Friday, we started making bookmarks too. We have about 80 of them. He helped to trim the paper, punch the holes and stick the ring reinforcers around the holes. At one point, he was really tired. He began,”This is really hard work.”

But then, he suddenly popped upright from his slouched posture, eyes brightening, and pulled both fists downward and exclaimed, “But I CAN DO IT! Right, Mummy?”

I smiled at him and said, “Yes, you can!”

He continued with a renewed sense of purpose and energy.

And all because he knows that money is not easily earned, and if he wants to find money to help the poor, there is hard work to be done.

But this sort of work is all worth it…because it takes us beyond ourselves, and helps us live out what it means to be salt and light in this world.

“This is what the LORD Almighty says: ‘Administer true justice; show mercy and compassion to one another.
Do not oppress the widow or the fatherless, the alien or the poor. In your hearts do not think evil of each other.’”
Zechariah 7:9-10

I cannot say enough how proud I am of my two boys. I pray that I will have the wisdom, courage, and integrity to be able to live such a life of example to my children. That the words of the God I worship are not mere words I read in the Bible and regurgitate only in speech, but that I live the life that truly please God, even if it offends the sensibilities of men.

And oh, in case you were wondering what my little one was doing? He helped decorate the bookmarks with stickers.

You Have Compassionate Angels In Your Home Too

And you know, I’m betting you too have children like these in your own home. 

Perhaps, it just takes an opportunity like our Love Gifts: KFC project to help fuel their compassionate hearts for the weaker, poorer and less privileged in our society.

Will you consider doing something meaningful to bless someone less fortunate than you are this Christmas season?

If so, do hop over to our Love Gifts: KFC to find out more.

One Comment

  1. I’m moved by your story to share mine. During the March 2011 tsunami that hit northeast Japan, pictures of the destruction were plastered on every newspaper. My 5-year-old girl asked about it. I explained to her what happened. I told her that many people lost their homes and belongings. Her first thoughts were: Mummy, what about the children? Did they lose all their toys too? They will have nothing to play with.
    She proceeded to make caterpillars out of pipe-cleaners and googly eyes for them. We eventually left them to someone who volunteered to be part of the post-tsunami clean-up team. We don’t know if they were ever given to the children.
    But children have hearts for children.
    Thanks for sharing about Love Gifts:KFC. Will aim to do that this Christmas.

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